My husband has been a big victim of his parents' guilt trips. We finally decided to start having holiday dinners at our home (which they are invited to) but they give us the cold shoulder and think we are being unreasonable. We are nearly 50! and should be able to have holiday dinners in our own home! Once they said "You can have dinners in your home when we are in a nursing home." They said that ten years ago. They are in their 80s and still live independently. One of my dh's siblings has passed on, having never had a holiday in his own home. How sad. And yes, I do love my in-laws but they really have a good way of laying guilt trips on my dh.